Zanelle

zanelle

zanelle
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December 07
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I am here in cyberspace trying to understand the true nature of reality. My artwork can be seen in the blog link below. http://suzannesmith0.wix.com/stucco-by-zanelle#!home/mainPage

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APRIL 18, 2012 9:50AM

Mike Wallace Loved His Work

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Mike Wallace said that he loved his work more than his family when he was being interviewed by his grandson.   I would like to think that he was devoted to his family but that kind of love is different than love of work. He told of having acne as a youth and that made him want to work hard to prove himself.

  He even revealed that he had tried to committ suicide once and his wife Mary found the note and pills and stopped him.  They had been married a long time.  What kind of relationship is possible when a man loves his work more than his family and admits it?

    Are we all yearning for acceptance and fulfillment in life?  We have things to prove and acquire that just have to be part of what we do in life.  It is such a very fragile brief time that we have on this earth and we seem to be here to fulfill some sort of destiny.   

   A friend of mine has devoted so much time to his two jobs and his church that he cannot maintain a relationship at home.  That sounds like a bad recipe for a life.  Priorities have to be analyzed.  God, Family, Job; would seem to be a list I could live with.  When I say God I do not mean a religious one that you have grown up with.  I mean a genuine love of spirit and nature. A religious God can be demanding and produce lots of guilt.

   Mike Wallace put his job first and he was very successful.  He needed to do that and his wife stood by him knowing that she was not his first priority.  The money probably helped.  I have been with men who had their job as their first priority but did not make much money.  That doesn't work.  Women need attention and when that is lacking money is a good second.

   I know that life is better when you have somone to share it with. It is not a matter of time you spend together but more what your priorities are.  I hope Mike Wallace made up for all the bullying he experienced in his youth.  I hope my friend finds a woman to love in between all the jobs and his church.  I hope I find that I can do whatever I want to and if I don't do anything more in my life I have given and received love and that makes it all worthwhile.

 

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Priorities work both ways... the reason I separated from my wife twenty years ago is, that despite the fact that she's a wonderful person with a razor sharp mind, she is a hopeless codependent. It's part of her nature to seek out and "help" people who need her. She told me up front when we started living together, "You know the kid comes first. He'll always come first."

No problem, but after four years of cohabitation and six years of marriage, I found myself standing in line behind the kid, her parents, the neighbors, co-workers... somewhere among the cats and dog. Not one to wave my hands in the air and say pay attention to me, I just slipped away.
Yep. Easy to just slip away and they hardly notice you are gone. sigh
Great post Z!
Why do people have/need to make things so complicated?
The older I get the more simple and drama free I need to be.
I am very simple and like it that way.

You have a kind heart and I am sure you have given and received love in this life. In the end that is really what's all about.
Sad (perhaps) story told by his son, Chris. At the end of his life he didn't talk about his work at all and if asked, seemed not to recall it at all. All he talked about was family, children, grandchildren. I suppose that's a good thing but a cautionary note. As the old saying goes, nobody ever said on their deathbed "I wish I'd spent more time in the office."
Nice post zanelle! Yes indeed...giving and receiving love is what it's about. It seems to me some people are born to be in relationship, like the couple I wrote about today, and others are here for the experience of doing good work and loving everyone along the way. Both are totally valid and worthwhile ways to spend ones time, I've decided.
Life is only better when you spend time with someone who respects, appreciates and treats you well as much as possible. Otherwise, it is fine to move on.

I can't believe that the grandson still does not suffer from that offhand and selfish admission.