People are hesitant to reveal too much about themselves. At a recent party they played the game..."What is your most embarassing moment." No one wanted to tell. The intimate times that we bury deep down inside are things we want to hide and cannot be told.
I like to tell my secrets. I want to let it all out into the open and see what makes my life tick. But it can be painful and hurtful to others. At the party my mom whispered that there were so many embarassing moments in her life that it would be difficult to choose one. Yes it would because in her mind almost everything I have done has been embarassing.
I might be delusional but I like all my mistakes. Some of the men I have been with others wouldn't have touched but I have no regrets. Some of the risks I took with my jobs and career made me vulnerable to loss. I am glad I quit and moved on and I can't look back with embarassment. I was just being honest.
So when I meet someone I want to know who they are. I want to know the deepest things about them and not just the surface they project. I want to know what makes them unique and what forces developed them. The things they think are embarassing are probably the most interesting and powerful.
If you do get the chance to sit next to me be prepared to have me gently pry you open and listen to your deepest self. My mother does this with people because she is curious. I guess I am too but I don't want just the facts I want the mysteries revealed. I want to know what makes people tick.
The trick is not to judge once you find out who someone is. I have a problem with that because I can dismiss someone for having the wrong color shirt on. My daughter did that once. She broke up with a fellow because he had an ugly orange shirt on. That was the last straw I guess. I hope she had more reasons than that for the break up.
It takes quite a bit for me not to want to know who you are. I can take most secrets. Six years ago I met a fellow online who told me that he had a story to tell me. He said he had been a bank robber and spent six years in prison and just got out. I went back to my place and it didn't take me long to be back by his side the next day. Some secrets are very powerful and most can be forgiven.
I heard about a man who passed out postcards with a stamp and his address on them. He asked people to write a secret on them and send them to him. He received some amazing secrets and now there is a website for secrets. http://www.postsecret.com/
His name is Ted and here is the video of his search for secrets.