Siddhartha knew how to wait.....and to think and to fast! This is the famous quote when he meets Kamala and starts to learn about love.
"So it is settled: Siddhartha will return, once he'll have have what he still lacks: clothes, shoes, money. But speak, lovely Kamala, couldn't you still give me one small advice?"
"An advice? Why not? Who wouldn't like to give an advice to a poor, ignorant Samana, who is coming from the jackals of the forest?"
"Dear Kamala, thus advise me where I should go to, that I'll find these three things most quickly?"
"Friend, many would like to know this. You must do what you've learned and ask for money, clothes, and shoes in return. There is no other way for a poor man to obtain money. What might you be able to do?"
"I can think. I can wait. I can fast."
"Nothing. But yes, I can also write poetry. Would you like to give me a kiss for a poem?"
"I would like to, if I'll like your poem. What would be its title?"
Siddhartha spoke, after he had thought about it for a moment, these verses:
Into her shady grove stepped the pretty Kamala, At the grove's entrance stood the brown Samana. Deeply, seeing the lotus's blossom, Bowed that man, and smiling Kamala thanked. More lovely, thought the young man, than offerings for gods, More lovely is offering to pretty Kamala.
Kamala loudly clapped her hands, so that the golden bracelets clanged.
"Beautiful are your verses, oh brown Samana, and truly, I'm losing nothing when I'm giving you a kiss for them."
She beckoned him with her eyes, he tilted his head so that his face touched hers and placed his mouth on that mouth which was like a freshly cracked fig. For a long time, Kamala kissed him, and with a deep astonishment Siddhartha felt how she taught him, how wise she was, how she controlled him, rejected him, lured him, and how after this first one there was to be a long, a well ordered, well tested sequence of kisses, everyone different from the others, he was still to receive. Breathing deeply, he remained standing where he was, and was in this moment astonished like a child about the cornucopia of knowledge and things worth learning, which revealed itself before his eyes."
I let that quote go on a little long because of the sensual nature of the ending. Being able to wait is a virtue in all sorts of passions. Impatience has it's place too though as persistence pays off in this world. I seem to spend lots of time waiting lately. I am semi retired and the time drags sometimes. I can remember being young and wishing for time like this. My daughter says she would love some time right now. So what am I waiting for?
I think I am already where I should be. The patience of Kamala is a sensual, creative place and in the quote above she goes on to teach Siddhartha the art of love making. No where else is patience and knowing how to wait for pleasure as intense.
I do not have very much patience with people in power. I tend to want to bring them down. I could use a dose of humility as I just rebel at following directions and judgments. I love the creative shows on television like "Project Runway" and "Face Off". But the judging process is brutal. Is competition and consummerism so important? I hate that feeling of deadlines and failure.
I like to have the time to do things my way without fear. When a person feels impatient it is usually connected to fear. We panic that things are not going to go well and we need to act somehow. I think the evolution of humans has made us as smart and fast as we are because of fear.
However survival of the fittest is not the same as it was fifty years ago. There are skills besides fighting and manipulating that we need. We need to cultivate patience. The ability to wait.
So I am wishing I was Siddhartha just on the verge of learning about this world and figuring out how to capitalize on his skills of knowing how to think, fast and wait. It probably didn't hurt that his wealthy upbringing taught him how to read and write. In the end he winds up helping people ferry across a river. He lives a simple life where he has plenty of time to be patient.