ChangeAgent's Open Salon Blog

Women stink like fish and so do their thoughts

Wed, 3 Jun 2009 09:06:20 -0400

I've never been one to rise above the fray and ignore MISOGYNY.

Yesterday, a post appeared that mocked the tragedy of the Air France crash. It is a mean-spirited, uncompassionate, spiteful, and fucking awful attempt at satire.

Fingerlakeswanderer pointed this out with a comment and this was the author's response to her:

hey fingerlakeswanderer, it's a good thing they didn't crash in your mega-sized used up swampland of a vagina...then, even with GPS, the crash victims wouldn't have been found without a 'sniff' test, if you know what I mean...

This is typical. A woman "steps out of line," calls some guy on his bullshit, and all he can think to do is tell her she is a smelly cunt. Very original. An example of the highest level of thinking. Such an excellent, intelligent, highly developed and well crafted response.

Women, for many guys, will never be more than their sexual parts.

Funny how they denigrate that which they spend so much time trying to get access to. /sarcasm

Doctor Who Performed Abortions Murdered (Suspect in Custody)

Sun, 31 May 2009 13:05:37 -0400

I hope this terrorist assassin resists arrest and is in turn shot dead by the police. Hopefully by a female officer. Thus sparing us a trial where we will be subjected to a parade of anti-abortion propaganda affording this evil man the opportunity to enjoy his time as a "martyr" for the "sacred" cause of keeping women second class.

Dr Tiller was a hero for over 30 years.

Donate in his honor to Planned Parenthood.

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Not so lucky as according to a Tweet six minutes ago (2:11 EST), a suspect is in custody.

Now we will get to hear all about the cause to save the unborn and how he came to be a true believer.

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The assassin's name is Scott Philip Roeder and two weeks ago he left a comment on Operation Rescue's web site calling for anti-choicers to take the fight inside Dr. Tiller's church. While he does not mention violence in the comment, it is chilling to read.

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Posted on Sun, May. 31, 2009

George Tiller shot to death at Wichita church

BY STAN FINGER
The Wichita Eagle

George Tiller, the Wichita doctor who became a national lightning rod in the debate over abortion, was shot to death this morning as he walked into church services.

Tiller, 67, was shot just after 10 a.m. at Reformation Lutheran Church at 7601 E. 13th, where he was a member of the congregation. Witnesses and a police source confirmed Tiller was the victim.

No information has been released about whether a suspect is in custody.

Homicide detectives and Sedgwick County District Attorney Nola Foulston have arrived at the church.

Members of the congregation who were inside the sanctuary at the time of the shooting were being kept inside the church by police, and those arriving were being ushered into the parking lot. Witnesses are being transported downtown for interviews and other members of the congregation are slowly being released from inside the sanctuary.

Tiller has long been a focal point of protest by abortion opponents because his clinic, Women's Health Care Services at 5701 E. Kellogg, is one of the few in the country where late-term abortions are performed.

Protesters blockaded Tiller's clinic during Operation Rescue's "Summer of Mercy" protests during the summer of 1991, and Tiller was shot by Rachelle Shannon at his clinic in 1993.

Tiller was wounded in both arms, and Shannon remains in prison for the shooting.

Tiller's clinic was severely vandalized earlier this month. According to the Associated Press, his lawyer said wires to security cameras and outdoor lights were cut and that the vandals also cut through the roof and plugged the buildings' downspouts. Rain poured through the roof and caused thousands of dollars of damage in the clinic. Tiller reportedly asked the FBI to investigate the incident.

Sgt. Bart Brunscheen of the Wichita Police Department said there has been no activitiy today at Tiller's clinic, although security crews were being brought in to make sure the building was secure. Officials also were going to check the clinic's security cameras to see if there was any activity over night.

Tiller and his clinic have faced continuous threats and lawsuits. A Wichita jury ruled in March that he was not guilty of illegal abortion on 19 criminal charges he faced for allegedly violating a state law requiring an "independent" second physician's concurring opinion before performing later term abortions. Immediately following the ruling in this criminal case, the Kansas State Board of Healing Arts made public a similar complaint against Tiller that was originally filed in December 2008. Tiller's medical license could eventually be suspended or revoked by the board on the basis of the complaint.

Check Kansas.com for updates.

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Twitter updates:

Police say suspect is in custody. #tiller 11 minutes ago
Video of Tiller's body being moved from church: http://bit.ly/aukfC 30 minutes ago
Press conference video is in its entirety. Be patient with it. 2 minutes ago
press conference video on Tiller: http://bit.ly/8w47u 2 minutes ago
http://twitpic.com/6cg0j - Body of George Tiller being removed from Reformation Lutheran church. 57 minutes ago
Police were not certain if shooter was a member of the church. about an hour ago
Stretcher taken from back of van and rolled into front entrance of church. Expect removal of body shortly. about an hour ago
mostly just police and media at Reformation Luthern Church now. about an hour ago
Video of police statement coming soon on Kansas.com about an hour ago
Body still hasn't not been removed from chuch. about an hour ago
Police say a handgun was used in the crime. about an hour ago
225-BAB is the tag on the vehicle police are looking for. Kansas tags. about an hour ago
Several witnesses have been taken downtown for questioning. about an hour ago
Allred would only identify victim as a white male in his 60's. Also said he had been a victim of high profile crimes in the past. about an hour ago

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The suspect fled the scene and authorities are still investigating. His car is described as a powder blue or light blue Taurus with a K-State vanity plate, license number 225 BAB. He is described as a white male in his 50's or 60's, 6'1," 220 lbs, wearing a white shirt and dark pants.

The car is licensed to Merriam, Kansas. (ABC KAKE 10)

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Tweets of Hate:

Crap, I always forgot hashtags. I'm happy Tiller's dead. - Jennifer Waite, Selah, Washington
UPDATE... Doctor George Tiller was aborted today in his 204th trimester - aren't paybacks a bitch - Punch
oh HAPPY DAY! Tiller the baby killer is DEAD! - Samantha Pelch
George Tiller the baby killer was shot dead this morning. God bless the gunmen who hopefully won't be caught. - readnwatchchris, Creedmor. NC
was George Tiller the baby killers brain scrambled the way he scrambled full term fetuses.. one can only hope - Brad S
Infamous baby killer George Tiller gunned down at (irony) church. Why do I not feel sorry for him? Have fun at Judgment Day. - James Fiddler
tiller the baby killer shot dead...wow. is it insensitive of me to say what goes around comes around? - Brad M. Negulescu Cleveland.
George Tiller the Baby Killer shot dead. May he rot in Hell. - Amy Strong
Tiller Baby Killer was shot and killed this morning Justice has been served. - Shirl Ledeux
Thinking about "Tiller the baby killer" He now knows the wages of sin is death. - Dianne McDowell
May Tiller rot in Hell , infanticide is the murder of babies, he WAS a provider of death like Hitler, Bundy the list goes on.... - Dennis, A People Voip Company
Burn in hell George Tiller - mikedanben Sparta, NJ (41.005501,-74.672)
No need to pray for George Tiller. We know he went straight to hell!!!!! - Laurie D. Bailey Olive Branch, MS
Good ridence to Tiller - babies will not be murdered because he is now gone. Wonder how he likes hell! - Jay Emess, Southern, NJ
Karma is a beautiful thing. Cheers to the hero who sent George Tiller where he belongs... straight to hell. - Matthew Kamar
omg!george tiller abortion dr. was killed n his church parkn lot! hell yea! - Sarah Gulick, Wtichita, Ks
George Tiller: Burning in Hell for the last three hours. - darthdilbert Kettering, Oh
Hmm, I know it's wrong, but I feel like the Late-Term Abortion Doctor George Tiller, got what was he deserved..... - Mary Keogh London England
Boom Boom Boom. George Tiller was served a very very late term abortion this morning. - Chad Coleman, coeur d'alene, Id
My compassion is with the innocent children Tiller slaughtered; not with him. 2day he paid consequences of his actions. - Jennifer Weber, Columbia, SC
George Tiller has killed his last baby - updated 4:50 PM Eastern: Who said the media only reports bad news? - Stan McCullars, Florida
As much as I detest murder, and please don't get me wrong, there's a part of me that is happy that #Tiller (Dr. Death) is dead. - David Rosenberg, New York
Someone gunned down George Tiller, murder is wrong but I can't say I'm sad he's gone. - Elizabeth Siler, Kansas
unless George Tiller was repenting for all the murders he has committed, I don't see what business he had in church. - Ricardo Perez, iPhone: 34.058884,-117.748413
George Tiller Now has to awnser to his Maker for Murdering the Unborn not my Job to Judge Him now - Jimmy, Southern Cal
Due to Tillers premature arrival, I hope God had already prepared his special place in Hell. - JLC, Missouri
Dr George Tiller was not murdered. The shooter was merely performing a very late term abortion on him. - Mike Packer, RI ÜT: 41.699455,-71.514096

Equal Rights for Men?

Thu, 28 May 2009 16:05:09 -0400

To make men equal to women this is what would have to be done:

1) In the US, take away 25 percent of their earnings.

This is US government data so wage gap deniers can take the bullshit they sling elsewhere. I will delete your unsupported by any data comments.

At the UN's Pan Pacific Southeast Asia Women's Association 21st International Conference in 2001 it was stated that "in the world as a whole, women comprise 51 percent of the population, do 66 percent of the work, receive 10 percent of the income and own less than one percent of the property."

So to make things equal worldwide 90 percent of a man's earnings and over 99 percent of his property would have to be taken away.

2) Rape and beat one out of three men randomly.

In some countries 7 out of 10 men would have to be raped and beaten to make them "equal." (Amnesty International)

In the US, Women are 10 times more likely than men to be victims of sexual assault. Less than half of those arrested for rape are convicted, 54% of all rape prosecutions end in either dismissal or acquittal. The conviction rate for those arrested for murder is 69% and all other felons is 54%. 21% of convicted rapists are never sentenced to jail or prison time, and 24% receive time in local jail which means that they spend an average of less than 11 months behind bars. (The Response to Rape: Detours on the Road to Equal Justice)

The above paragraph is from a Men against rape website.

Yes, male on male prison rape is a problem and I am against it, so don't bother throwing it up in my face in the comment.

3) Start stoning men for having sex.

4) Toss acid on men when they refuse sexual advances.

Several more points about the rest of Jodi Kasten's poorly researched, highly generalized and anecdotal post:

1) Men failing to get custody these days due to bias is an old trope not supported by reality.

Anecdotal comments not with standing, a little research and fact checking and it turns out men who ask for custody tend to get it and it is men who are abusive who most often seek custody (and win):

"Approximately one in two marriages in the United States end in divorce, affecting over a million children per year. About 10% of these divorces involve custody litigation. At the same time, child abuse is a widespread problem in our society and families with a history of violence often end in divorce. Concerns about safety of the children are behind some of the most bitterly contested child custody cases."

"Unfortunately custody litigation can become a vehicle whereby batterers and child abusers attempt to extend or maintain their control and authority over their victims after the marriage dissolves. Although, research has not found a higher incidence of false allegations of child abuse and domestic violence in the context of custody/visitation disputes, officers of the court tend to be unreasonably suspicious of claims raised during time. As a result, abused parents and their children may find themselves re-victimized by the justice system after separation."

"Although women are more likely to get custody of their children, this is often because they are more likely to ask for it. When men ask for custody, they often get it. According to a report by the American Psychological Association, an abusive man is more likely than a nonviolent father to seek sole physical custody of his children and may be just as likely (or even more likely) to be awarded custody as the mother (APA, 1996). A report by the American Judges Foundation, reported that 70% of the time an abuser who requests custody is able to convince the court to give it to him."

"The majority of parents in "high-conflict divorces" involving child custody disputes report a history of domestic violence and/or child abuse. For example, a review of one sample of parents referred for child custody evaluations by the court found that domestic violence was raised in 75% of the cases (Jaffe & Austin, 1995 as cited by Jaffe, Crooks, & Poisson, 2003). Another study found that between 70% and 75% of parents who were referred by the family court for counseling because of failed mediation or continuing disputes over the care of their children described marital histories that included physical aggression (Johnston & Campbell, 1988)."

"However, raising allegations of abuse often hurts the abused or protective parent more than the alleged abuser. An ongoing study funded by the National Institute of Justice study shows that women who inform custody mediators that they are victims of domestic violence often receive less favorable custody awards (Saccuzzo & Johnson, 2004). The investigators found that only 35% of mothers who alleged domestic abuse got primary custody, compared to 42% of mothers who did not. Father who were accused of domestic violence were given primary custody in 10% of cases, father not accused of domestic violence got primary custody 9% of the time. Thus, disclosing domestic violence hurt the women who disclosed being victimized; while alleged perpetrators suffered no ill effects - that is unless the mediator noted evidence of violence when the mother did not allege domestic violence. When this occurred, mediators recommended protected child exchanges twice as often. Thus women who were forthright with their domestic violence allegations secured less protection for themselves and their children."

"A recent study by the Harborview Injury Prevention & Research Center in Seattle confirms these results (Kernic et al., 2005). The researchers analyzed documentation on more than 800 local couples with young children who filed for divorce in 1998 and 1999, including 324 cases with a history of domestic violence. They found that evidence of domestic violence did not appear to change how courts decided custody. In other words, fathers who were violent were just as likely to receive custody when they asked for it as fathers who were not violent. Only 17% of fathers with a known history of domestic violence were denied child visitation and they were no more likely than other fathers to be required by the court to have a third party supervise child visitations."

"Concerns about how family courts are handling cases involving abuse were also raised by the findings of Neustein and Goetting (1999). They examined judicial responses to protective parents' complaints of child sexual abuse in 300 custody cases with extensive family court records. The investigators found that in only 10% of cases where allegations of child abuse were raised was primary custody given to the protective parent with supervised contact with alleged abuser. Conversely, 20% of these cases resulted in a predominantly negative outcome where the child was placed in the primary legal and physical custody of the allegedly sexually abusive parent ( see, p. 108). In the rest of the cases, the judges awarded joint custody with no provisions for supervised visitation with the alleged abuser."

"To better understand the problems that protective parents face in the legal system, researchers at California State University , San Bernardino , are performing an on-going national survey (Stahly et al., 2004). To date, over 100 self-identified protective parents have completed the 101-item questionnaire. The results are quite shocking. Prior to divorce, 94% of the protective mothers surveyed say that they were the primary caretaker of their child and 87% had custody at the time of separation. However, as a result of reporting child abuse, only 27% were left with custody after court proceedings. Most protective parents lost custody in emergency ex parte proceedings (where they were neither notified nor present) and where no court reporter was present."

"The vast majority of these mothers (97%) reported that court personnel ignored or minimized reports of abuse. They reported feeling that they were punished for trying to protect their children and 65% said they were threatened with sanctions if the "talked publicly" about the case. In all, 45% of the mothers say they were labeled as having Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)."

"The protective parents reported that the average cost of the court proceedings was over $80,000. Over a quarter of the protective parents say they were forced to file bankruptcy as a result of filing for custody of their children. Eighty-five percent of the protective parents surveyed believe that their children are still being abused; however, 63% say they stopped reporting the abuse for fear that contact with their children will be terminated. Eleven percent of the children were reported to have attempted suicide."

An annotated overview of research documenting protective parents losing custody to abusers can be found at http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/pas/dv.html
American Psychological Association. (1996). Report of the APA Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family, Washington , D.C.: Author.
American Judges Foundation, Domestic Violence and the Court House: Understanding the Problem.Knowing the Victim, Forms of Emotional Battering Section, Threats to Harm or Take Away Children Subsection http://aja.ncsc.dni.us/domviol/page5.html
Kernic, M. A., Monary-Ernsdorff, D. J., Koepsell, J. K., & Holt, V. L. (2005). Children in the crossfire: child custody determinations among couples with a history of intimate partner violence. Violence Against Women, 11(8), 991-1021.
Jaffe, P. Crooks, C. V., & Poisson, S. E. (2003). Common Misconceptions in Addressing Domestic Violence in Child Custody Disputes. Juvenile and Family Court Journal, 54(4), 57-67.
Johnston, J. R. & Campbell, L. E. G. (1988). Impasses of divorce: The dynamics and resolution of family conflict. New York: The Free Press.
Neustein, A., & Goetting, A. (1999). Judicial Responses to Protective Parents, Journal of Child Sexual Abuse , 4, 103-122. http://www.haworthpressinc.com/store/SampleText/J070.pdf (page 109 of pdf)
Saccuzzo, D. P. & Johnson, N. E. (2004). Child Custody Mediation's Failure to Protect: Why Should the Criminal Justice System Care? NIJ Journal, 251, Available from the National Institute of Justice. http://ncjrs.org/pdffiles1/jr000251.pdf (page 21)
Stahly, G. B., Krajewski, L., Loya, B. Uppal, K., German, G., Farris, W., Hilson, N., & Valentine, J. (2004). Protective mothers in child custody disputes: A study of judicial abuse. California State University, San Bernardino .

Source: The Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence

2) I would never buy or wear a "boys suck" or "boys are stupid throw rocks at them" or any similiar t-shirt, but I will get all up in arms about those shirts which are designed and sold by a man when men stop wearing these:

On the back it says: “Isn’t that why women have more than one hole?”

Her own past blogs show Jodi Kasten is an agoraphobe who has spent most of her life being supported by men. As such how can she have a realistic view of the misogyny that permeates the real world when she does not function in it?

The best words to describe Jodi Kasten are ill informed and naive.

Now this "feminist" is a conservative radio talking point.

Perhaps she should worry more the rights of her daughter. They are far more endangered and tenuous than those of her sons.

Unlike her, I work in the world, face misogyny daily and have provided sources for my assertions. No sweeping generalizations without citations here.

Ultimately just because a bunch of reddit boiz are sucking up to you because they really do hate women and you have provided them an opportunity to bash women, it doesn't mean you are right.

While I do not believe progress is a zero sum game for either gender, the incredible opression suffered by women around the world so far out weighs the t-shirt Jodi Kasten complains about that her premise that men are not equal is laughable and sad.

Hardball Host Patronized Joan Walsh

Thu, 30 Apr 2009 03:04:06 -0400

I don't watch the news much, but tonight I as I flipped the channels I saw Joan Walsh on MSNBC and paused to listen to her.

Chris Matthews really turned me off with his misogyny during the presidential primary and it seems he hasn't learned anything from the criticism he and his compatriots earned.

Tonight he thanked Joan Walsh for her feelings as well as her thoughts.

He would never have said that to a man.

What an ass.

To those who don't "get" it, I feel sorry that you are so enured to the daily sexism of life.

The small shit adds up.

For the Collage - I'd like to play

Sat, 22 Nov 2008 16:11:25 -0500

I don't post as much as I'd like, but I do read and try to comment. If there is still room in the 400, I would like to be included. Not my old photo though. That was just something I found so it wouldn't be blank. I have taken some pictures of derby gear and other things meaning to write a blog about my progress which includes the loss of five pounds and being able to stay on my skates for an hour and a half at a time. This collage thing has gotten me to post a more derby picture and when I am happier with the body, I will put up one in full gear. Please be patient though as the five pounds was the tip of the iceberg.

This 400 thing makes me think of the 300 movie about the Spartens and King Leonidas. The actors were very tasty in that movie even if the plot was lacking.

The OS 400.