deLuvDoc's Open Salon Blog

New Year, New Hope, New Ventures

Thu, 12 Jan 2012 08:01:51 -0500

As far as the new year...2012...is concerned, to the Juicy Crone, newness is the theme. This is a time for renewal, hope for things to come and thankfulness for all that life has to offer...even if, at first glance...it's hard to see why!

I've started pulling together the business that I've been planning on launching for the last year or so...starting with a small press, which I've named, MetaRead360. It will have several associated imprints, but primarily focused on all things metaphysical. My first publication will be my own book, several years in the making, called "Lost & Found: Finding the 'Lost' I AM...Within YOU!" It's a collection of metaphysical writings that go back to 2007, when I started penning pithy sayings that were originally to be part of a work of fiction. After awhile of sharing these with my Yahoo!Group, I was encouraged to pull phrases into paragraphs, and finally into short articles. They were also posted on a now-defunct metaphysical site, Gaia, and finally decided that they needed to become a book.

Also, with this new year, and after having two people in my life go from juicy to done, I am on my own again. Don't be sad for me...I'm not. There's never anything quite as freeing as knowing you've made the right decision...even when that decision means you'll be single...at least for awhile. I'm confident that I'll have just the right person (or people) show up in my life that is perfect for where...and who...I am right now.

As my upcoming book says, "Now is the perfectly ripe time to be who you came to this earth to be..." Who ever you are, right now, in this moment, you are simply you. I am simply me. So, be here, now...as I am, present and accounted for in this new year of 2012!

Blessings and best wishes,

The Juicy Crone (aka deLuvDoc)

A Bird in the Hand

Tue, 6 Dec 2011 23:12:44 -0500

The Luv Doc is back from her latest hiatis!

A lot has happen in the relatively short time I've been "away"...from being happy as poly-single...to double-dating...to happy with the one I'm with! Yes, things are ever busy and ever fascinating my world. And, this rollercoaster ride of relationship has been no exception.

To be blunt, I won't wish to sound ungrateful, having two people in my life was great...while that lasted, but truly, sometimes a bird in the hand IS worth more than two in the bush. The "one that got away" was one I had dated last year; he is a great guy, but clearly, there was something that I saw that didn't work the first time... Although I acknowledged that he had grown quite a bit after the past year, obviously some of the changes that came with that were not in the right direction...at least not for us as a couple.

Without going into too much details, it was a good ride while it lasted, but that ride came to an abrupt and unpleasant conclusion last week. We parted; let's leave it at that. When it comes to relationships, the Luv Doc is no different than anyone else, when love bites, you feel it...in places no mere bandage will sauve.

So, on to "the bird"...he is much, MUCH younger than I ever imagined myself to be dating! I spent the first few conversations arguing the case against this relationship working out for either of us. But surprisingly, the younger continues to prove himself to be the more mature...by far. What he lacks in life experience, he more than makes up in fortitude, resilience, and eagerness. It helps that he's also a giver...maybe a tad too much...everything in balance, right? In the end, he's won me over...and I shalll endeavor to forget that one in the bush and tend to the on in the hand.

Happily Harmonious,

deLuvDoc (aka The Juicy Crone)

Still hopelessly in love

Fri, 30 Sep 2011 21:09:56 -0400

True Confession from the Luv Doc/Juicy Crone herself...I'm still, hopelessly, in love with an ex lover who I haven't seen or heard from in over two and a half years! Ugh!?! It would be so easy for me to advise someone else; I would say, get over it...he's long gone! But as the song goes, when he said forever, who knew?

To be honest, I did...I did before it ever got into the really juicy part that it wasn't going to last. When you fall hard for someone who you know is already being dishonest with someone else, a smart person, ehem, like me...should have known it was doomed. Alas, where love is part of the picture, logic often goes out the window...and, it was in my case.

Anyone who thinks they can beat the odds, pull the proverbial rabbit out of the hat and win at this, deserves the misery that's surely the outcome. I may be being harsh on myself, but I'd rather think it's just facing facts. If I don't find a way of stopping the insanity...obsessing about a lost love, then I'm in for a rough ride. And worse, my love bandwidth is seriously compromised!

So, that's my Friday night rant. I tend to agree with the statement, better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. So I'll take that as a small consolation prize and retreat back into my inner thoughts. If you have any suggestions for me to take my own medicine and 'get over him', I'm all ears...

deLuvDoc/Juicy Crone

Honestly, Honey...

Wed, 24 Aug 2011 20:08:14 -0400

Honesty. It's the one those things in a relationship that can be faked...but, shouldn't..for many reasons.

All too often, we tell those 'little, white lies' that we tell ourselves are 'good' for the significant person(s) in our lives. Yet, you're one person that always knows the truth; it's a lie...pure and simple. At the end of the day...or week...or sometime in the not-so-distant future, it will out itself as the lie that it is.

The Juicy Crone has been around the poly-block enough to know this one thing as well: What goes around, for-sure, comes around...and faster in the poly community than in other more insular, monogamous communities. There is a very good reason for that, we 'polys' tend to be a vocal and homogenous group of people who swim in a very small pond.

If you mess with one member of this 'poly pond', you're extremely likely to have to explain yourself...usually more than one...many times over. And over. Well, you get the point. I advocate in favor of everyone being as honest as is possible at all time with all people...not just those in your immediate circle of friends and intimates. And, you're going to tell me, but what if... Yes, well, go ahead and create your own favorite scenario; I have. You may be able to get away with that 'half-truth' for awhile, but it will catch you up eventually.

More importantly, you need to ask yourself this: why would you ever want to hold the truth from that certain, special someone or group of someones, when honestly is the best policy? Can you ever repair the broken trust that inevitably arises from the underlying, decaying and stinking lie as it is exposed to the light of day?

Of course, I don't have to tell you the answer to that...when I put it so bluntly. But...honestly, honey...there was one person who always did know that it was a lie from the beginning, that person was you! You had to lie to you before you concocted that lie to tell to someone else, whether you believe me or not, that, dear one, is the truth.

So, the next time you find yourself deliberating how to withhold the truth from someone you care about, perhaps even love, think about what I've just said and maybe...just maybe...you'll opt out. You'll tell the simple, albeit often painful, truth. Come what may, just be honest. In the long run, you'll thank me...but, more importantly, you'll thank yourself.

Honestly,

The Juicy Crone, aka deLuvDoc

Even in the Quietest Moments

Wed, 10 Aug 2011 22:08:12 -0400

Quiet...it's something that everyone craves, now and then...if not to get away from the maddening crowd, just to chill for awhile.

But there's a different kind of quietness that the Luv Doc craves, that is the kind that is enjoyed in the presence of a lover, favorite partner or even friend...if they're the cuddlin' kind! Much is said about rekindling a marriage or partnership, while little is said about the joys of just staying close in someone else's embrace. Most of us have enjoyed a fleeting moment of quiet, loving and sensual togetherness. Yet it's rare that many of us seek it out.

My challenge to you, my dear lovelies, is to make it more of a priority in your life...give it a chance, make it a 'date night', or a regularly scheduled activity. Life, these days, is far too busy, too stressful with far too little TLC...Tender Loving Care! So, try it...for a change...or make it more regular, even if you do.

Don't get the Luv Doc wrong...I haven't given up luscous, hot, passionate sex in the least. And, I'm not advocating that your 'love diet' consist of only hugs and cuddles...not in the least. But, really, when was the last time you partook of more subdued and often more intimate forays? Chance are in the house's favor if I bet you can't remember when that last time was...right?

By the way, the album...yes, LP...as in a record title was the inspiration for this post. Supertramp was already a much loved and played group by the time this 'doc' graduated from high school! Ooops, I'm dating myself...oh, well!?! As a stroll down that memory lane, let me quote you some of the lyrics from the title song:

And even thought the stars are listening
And the ocean's deep, I just go to sleep

And then I create a silent movie

You become the star, is that what you are, dear?

So, lovin' friends and friendly lovers, do not wait another moment...take the hand of the one you love and spend some quiet time getting to know each other...just a little bit better!

Cuddles, deLuvDoc