willowrose003's Open Salon Blog

Facebook is a bully

Sun, 1 Jan 2012 12:01:59 -0500

Facebook is bullying its users. My account, an account that's important to me because it has my family members on it, including a long lost cousin I hadn't seen since I was 6 months old, isn't letting me log in. Facebook has decided I'm a robot and its making me provide a code before I'm able to log into my account. But because I'm poor I can't always afford minutes for my prepaid phone so my cellphone has been out of order for a few weeks. I cherish my Facebook account however so once I realized I needed my cellphone to work in order to get a code sent to it in a text message I took my time to venture out into the world on a crazy new year's eve and bought a top up card.

I then once again tried logging into my Facebook account and requested that a code be sent to my cellphone. But with my rotten good for nothing luck, my cellphone decided to have issues and wasn't sending any texts through. So I called Virgin Mobile costumer support, twice in a few hours time, and eventually the cellphone was debugged and all of my texts were sent through. But by then it was far too late to provide the code for my Facebook account. So now Facebook is deciding I'm "requesting too many codes in a short period of time. Try again later". That was yesterday. I was tempted to get up throughout the night just to try it again figuring enough hours had gone by. But I waited and today finally came and I tried it and guess what? It is still telling me I'm requesting too many codes and to try again LATER. Well when exactly is later?

There is no way to contact costumer service through Facebook. They don't have one. All they have is a suggestion box called "feedback" and in order to send something you must already be logged in. Well what happens when Facebook takes it upon themselves to call you a robot and won't let you sign in in order to send them feedback? You can't. You can't send them feedback. You can't contact them at all.

Facebook makes all these harsh rules for its users yet they're not willing to help when there's a problem? That's wimpy of Facebook. And Facebook shouldn't shut someone completely out of their account simply because they decide they might be a robot (or sending spam. Neither of which I am nor have ever).

I lost my photos, I lost my contacts, I even lost my FarmVille because Facebook is a huge bully. Facebook NEEDS to be knocked off its gigantically high horse. Facebook NEEDS costumer support. It needs to stop hiding behind its billions of dollars and actually care a little bit about the users that's helping to make it rich. And I need to get back into my account.

I'm starting a petition for Facebook customer service. Who's with me?

Frustrated

Sun, 13 Nov 2011 21:11:53 -0500

I'm reaching out to the world.

I don't know where to start. I am so very frustrated when it comes to attracting someone.

I found someone that I sorta liked but didn't know well enough to really like. So a friend told me to make sure he knows I exist or to "get him before someone else does". Well turns out someone might have already have had him. I'm not sure yet. And that's the most frustrating part. After all these months of trying to talk to him, and sometimes succeeding, even though my mouth goes dry, he shows up at a religious function with a girl. Later in the week he shows up with her again. I of course go up to introduce myself to her. She's very nice. And she said she's a coworker of his. And it looked like she might have been wearing either a wedding ring or an engagement ring.

I'm more confused than ever. I was praying for an answer when it came to this guy. He wasn't sending me signals that he was for sure interested in me, but it seemed like he was sending me signals that he was sort of curious about me. I hate thinking I "wasn't good enough" but maybe I just "wasn't his type". Which is still frustrating. When will I feel chemistry with someone that the other person is feeling too? Because I did feel it. I felt it every time I looked him in the eyes. But evidently it wasn't really chemistry. Evidently in my 30+ years of life I still have no clue what chemistry actually feels like. That's super frustrating.

And now I'm more frustrated than ever.

What is love?

Sun, 3 Apr 2011 16:04:53 -0400

Made myself all pretty for church today and potential crush boy wasn't even there. I know what's gonna happen. It's happened before. I try looking all cute for someone and end up attracting other attention instead. I'll be surprised, and to be honest a bit disappointed, if it doesn't happen. It's happened more than once that way already.

What the heck is wrong here? Why can't I get the guy I actually want? I try showing someone attention, because they started showing me attention first, but instead of getting anywhere with the person I'm trying to show the attention to, someone else notices instead! Someone else that shows interest in me like the interest I'm trying to show in SOMEONE ELSE.

This is why it's hard for me to believe in actual falling in love. I can't help but to be on the side of those people that believe one person must love the other person more. That's just the way it works out. And then that means the other person is settling. There's no such thing as an equal spark at first sight. None. Those that claim it are lying for the other person's behalf.

I once saw an episode of Sex and the city and although I wasn't a big fan of that show, I'll never forget the scene. Some girl that the girls knew was getting married. When she hugged one of the girls she whispered "marry someone that loves you MORE". ...

What horrible advice! Why would anyone want to be stuck in a marriage with someone they're not completely in love with? Why? Because once you find someone that's crazy head over heals in love with you, even if you're not diggin' them the same way, it's stupid to walk away from them and instead be the one that falls head over heals in love with someone else that's simply "settling" for you because of how much you love them.

Make sense? I don't know. All I know is my whole life I've been striking out. And it's not because no boys ever are interested in me. It's because the ones that I'M interested in aren't ever interested back. Even if they're the one that seems to initiate the attention.

Cyber-bullying vs personal opinion

Fri, 18 Mar 2011 20:03:32 -0400

You know, it's pretty sad it took the internet for people to pay attention to "bullying". Cyber-bullying gets thrown around far too much. Not everyone is cyber-bullying because you give your opinion. Back in elementary school and junior high in the 80's and 90's, it took the whole class ganging up on someone before it was considered "bullying". Other than that no one cared if someone got called fat and was talked about behind their backs or if no one wanted to dance with them in the school play because they were so unpopular. (I'm not referring to myself by the way. I actually had plenty of friends in school, even if it was the dork table). But these days, you can't tell someone their song sucks or give an opinion that you think someone is ugly without it being considered "cyber-bullying". What happened to personal opinion? I think unless you're somehow personally contacting someone in order to harass them, the term "cyber-bullying" is being grossly misused.

There's someone online right now that contacts me every year or so just to try getting an aggravated response from me. I have never met this person "irl" but they accuse me of doing something I did not do and they keep telling me they have proof that I did it. Their spelling is horrible, they seem to lack even online social skills, but they're passionate about their claim. I eventually block them but then a year later they end up making another account and contacting me again. And they pick up right where they left off. It's so random, it actually amuses me at first. Until they start to really get annoying and I go off on them by calling them a bad name. Then they tell me they're reporting me for cyber-bullying and then they delete their account before I get the chance to remind them I'm reporting them for harassment. Which I've done in the past but I don't think the word harassment gets the same attention as the term cyber-bullying. I'm not the only person this person has harassed but I seem to be one of their favorites. And unless they're just being a troll that thinks what they're doing is funny, they honestly believe they can go around harassing people to the point of receiving a well deserved irritated response, and then accuse that person of cyber-bullying them in return.

Cyber-bullying is what that lady did to that 13 year old. She pretended to be some teenager boy, completely deceived the naive child, and then started insulting her to the point of making her depressed. Giving an opinion on a music video should not be considered cyber-bullying. Harassing someone until you get a certain response shouldn't allow the harasser to claim cyber-bullying. It's one of those things in society that's being misused to the point of losing it's value.

But my question is, if I'm rude enough to leave a comment somewhere that says "that baby is ugly", am I cyber-bullying that baby? Or am I giving my personal opinion?